Huh?! Intriguing. A public health case for getting beyond the gender binary.
Teo: I’m cutting up jellyfish for everyone to eat at the seder.
Daddy: But what if I think eating jellyfish is blechy?
Teo: Well, we eat chickens.
Teo: Anya, what are germs?
Anya: They’re little things that can make us sick.
Teo: Anya you’re really smart.
Anya: Yeah, I am, I know.
A few months ago, I went to a conference on the future of work. One of the speakers was described as a energy guru. During his talk, he shared his thoughts about how to schedule work during optimal times, when your energy is at its peak. He provided very specific instructions on how much sleep to get and when to get up, when to create and when to do busy work. By following his guidelines, he asserts, you are poised to be your most innovative and creative, and you can dominate your field. As a coach to parents and a mother of two kids under five, I couldn’t really relate to his message. I don’t have much control over my sleep, though I do have a fantastic coffee machine. I approached him afterward and asked him how he would modify his advice for working parents of young kids. After doing a quick scan of the room, looking at the young professionals and seasoned workplace experts, he said: “Yeah, you’re not my audience.” I got the message.
As a working parent of young kids, I am often thought of as the third rail of the work-life conversation."
Teo: Anya, give me your piggy.
Me: You know Anya, you don’t have to do what Teo says.
Anya: Because he’s not the boss?
Anya: I think Daddy’s the boss in this family.
Me: WHAT? Why?
Anya: Because more men are bosses. [Teo snorts like a piggy, in the background, then makes robot sounds]
Me: Why do you think that?
Anya: Because there are lots of men bosses on tv. [More snorting and robot noises]
Me: THAT’S! NOT! TRUE! Well, ok, a lot of men are bosses, on tv and in real life, but a lot of women are bosses too. And maybe people used to think that only men could be bosses, and maybe some people still do, but they’re wrong. Did you know that Mommy’s only ever had women as her bosses? Except one man, who was her boss. And now Mommy is her own boss. And Daddy’s had bosses who are women. And in our family Mommy and Daddy are both the boss. And when you grow up, I bet you’ll be a boss, too. And…
Anya: Teo, go to sleep.
Anya, bringing me a Cinderella figure given to her by Grandma: Mommy, can you put her dress on? [then, under her breath:] But she’s not getting married.
Me: Sure. What’s she going to do?
Anya: She’s going to ride horses and shoot bow and arrows. I guess.