Am digging Lisa Belkin’s new Motherlode Bookclub, where interesting convo about this book unfolds. I’m with Katy Read, who writes in:
The way I look at it, over the past 50 or so post-Friedan years we’ve gone through a cultural overhaul. We’ve introduced ways of living unlike anything humankind has ever tried before (yes, women have often worked, but rarely in the exact same jobs as men, rarely if ever while asking men to share childcare and housekeeping responsibilities).
So is it surprising that both women and men involved in this monumental cultural shift are experiencing some challenges and frustrations, some struggles to adjust, some mixed or outright conflicting emotions … some qualms? Not to me; on the contrary, I’d be surprised if they weren’t. What does surprise me a bit, though, is the “She made a different choice from me, and is therefore wrong” or the — far more cutting and, in my experience, far more common — “If she complains about anything along the way, she’s whiny.”
The way I see it, we’re just a generation or two into one of the world’s most fascinating sociological shifts ever. Not talk about it? Not write about it? Not examine our own feelings and those of everyone else in sight who are muddling through this on their own individual paths? You’ve got to be kidding me. We’re watching a new chapter of history unfold, and the people who tell about their experiences are its firsthand witnesses.